When Pastor Sunil, who leads two small local churches, was rejected for an extra donation from an urban church, he was very disappointed.
Feeling discouraged and lost, he began to think over what the administrator of the urban church, Jagdish, had told him.
“The primary goal was to relate with you. We wanted to partner with you instead of simply giving out donations. But I don’t even know you. This is not what partnership is,” Jagdish had told Sunil.
Sunil was forced to think over Jagdish’s words. “Relationship matters more than money,” Jagdish had said. “We should be sharing our gifts and blessings with one another. We should be building the kingdom of God together.”
After several days of pondering, Sunil decided to make a phone call to Jagdish.
That was a year ago. Looking back at how their partnership has grown, Jagdish recalls the hardships that he encountered when he first began discipleship with Sunil.
“It felt like his worldviews and mindset were still at a very young stage of Christianity," said Jagdish. "He was still searching for the experience he first received after becoming a believer and he was not happy that he was not receiving it. That’s the main reason he was very discouraged.”
The two began meeting every couple of weeks or so for discipleship and to chat through issues. Jagdish suggested Sunil bring his wife to meet with him and his wife regularly. Sunil began to participate in Jagdish’s weekly bible studies.
Afterwards, the two would go home with Jagdish and his wife to enjoy dinner and talk things over.
“Sunil had many issues during that time," said Jagdish. "There was mismanagement at his church and he was just very lonely." Jagdish believed that building a one-on-one relationship with Sunil would be an effective way to help build him spiritually.
With the circumstances of Christianity changing rapidly in South Asia, small churches are on the rise. According to Jagdish, most Western theologies do not fit these churches’ contexts due to language and inter-cultural differences.
“These small churches are so hungry for the gospel, and yet they are not properly fed,” Jagdish explained. “These people need living examples to feed them, guide them, and to be willing to give freely."
Jagdish started encouraging Sunil to work during the weekdays. In a country where most churches are small and localised, being a full-time minister supported by a church can be quite difficult.
“If you work, you know what your church members are going through when they labour,” Jagdish explained. “It’s pointless for you to have nothing to do on weekdays and then solely relying on Sunday offerings or big church donations. You can still incorporate spirituality in your labour because you will be able to sympathise with those who earn hard money.”
Establishing the right mindset in Sunil took some convincing, but eventually he came through.
Looking back, Sunil said, “Jagdish is very truthful. It was like he was showing me a mirror and reflecting all my wrong mindsets. I felt like I could grow again.”
The right mindset also included having regular fellowship with his church members, showing hospitality to them, and visiting their homes on a more personal level. Sunil added: “The way Jagdish led me was not controlling but instead giving me space, time and attention to grow. I was able to share openly with him my heart, which helped me experience growth.”
Slowly, things began to change for Sunil. After seeking advice from Jagdish, he began helping around the house and appreciating his wife more. When asked how he juggles between two churches and working on weekdays, he smiled and simply said: “My wife.”
Jagdish believes that true partnership between two churches must alway be built on one-on-one relationships. Building a relationship on Jagdish’s terms means being involved with all aspects of that person’s life, not just solely his ministry.
“So sometimes it can even be like marriage counseling,” he said, referring to the discussions that both couples have had. He strongly believes that discipleship is effective through relationship building, different to many people’s impression of discipleship training that mainly involves a teacher, classroom and assignments.
While patiently guiding Pastor Sunil on the right path, Jagdish understands that the process can be slow. He understands that this is a kind of ministry that will not have immediate results, or that he might not see any significant change in his lifetime. Nevertheless, he has faith in God.
When asked how God has changed Jagdish through his experience of discipling Sunil, Jagdish said: “Oh, God has changed me greatly. He has changed my views about what a church should look like.”
He believes there is movement among small churches, with God bringing in new believers daily with many healings and people willing to do discipleship training.
“This is the beginning of something really new," aid Jagdish. "I might not see the end of it in my lifetime. I am only here to lay groundwork and pray that God’s kingdom will continue to grow. It’s like walking into a mystery.”
For national and international partnerships in south Asia to be life-giving, two-way discipleship opportunities.
For the continued equipping and encouraging of small church leaders across south Asia.